Crabs in a Bucket (a mini rant of sorts)
So this morning I read an article about Miss Gabby Douglas ( for those of you who didn’t watch the Olympics, she is the gold medalist in gymnastics from USA) and the controversy surrounding her hair! I am just appalled about the whole situation! Her hair-which I happen to think is just fine-first sparked controversy during the Olympics because some
idiots people thought that her ponytail was unkempt. Hello??? 0_o ….. you people do realize that she is a star athlete who is busy focusing on doing flips, jumps, cartwheels, etc. trying to win a gold medal in the Olympics? Like that was the purpose of her flying all the way to London. Not for a beauty pageant but for an Olympic event!
Who has time to worry about if their ponytail is neat and tidy? Her focus was on her performance and reaching the goal she had set for herself. I also didn’t understand why her hair got so much attention. None of the female athletes had their hair “fried, dyed and laid to the side” during their events. All the gymnasts wore ponytails, the swimmers wore swim caps, the tennis players wore ponytails, etc. I didn’t see anyone with freshly flat ironed, curled, or even wearing clip in extensions. This was not the platform for that! It’s the freaking Olympics…it was all about sports! Sigh…I digress.
SO anyway today there was another article because now Gabby has gotten a weave (extensions) in her hair for all of her public and television appearances. Somebody help me because I don’t see what is wrong with that! For one thing it will save her a lot of time when getting ready. Secondly it will protect her hair from being damaged from having to be curled so many times for all of these appearances here in the States and abroad. But of course the same
idiots I mean people are ragging her about her hair yet again.
This whole situation reminds me of crabs in a bucket. My grandmother and I would go crabbing when I was younger. We would catch lots of them during low tide and throw them in a bucket. I would watch as they would fight each other to get to the top of the bucket to get out. When one of them would make it close to the top, or to the top, then the other crabs would try to attack that one crab to try to make them come back down to where they were. I think that is the mentality of so many people in our society today and its so sad.
Instead of being happy when someone succeeds in life, people try to find something, the most minute or trivial thing to try to bring that person down instead of praising them for accomplishing something big! I am always encouraging people to be the best they can be. I love to see people “make it”. Instead of being a crab in a bucket, try to learn from that person’s success or work harder to meet your own goals.
What I learned from this entire ordeal is that people just can’t help “hating” on someone who does well. This trait transcends denominations, races, genders, etc. I have put up with it in my own life but I don’t even let the negativity affect me like it used to. My grandma told me something when I was younger that I will always remember and put into practice everyday. She said “if people hate on you then that means you must be doing something right. So keep on doing what you are doing and living your life in excellence. Eventually you might be able to inspire the haters to do something with their own lives that they can be proud of”. My granny is very wise.
Have you ever had the “crabs in a bucket” experience? How do you cope? I would love to hear about it!