Welcome to Talk Tuesdays. We are all friends here so I would love to have an open dialogue with you guys here on Tuesdays going forward through 2014. I will be asking a question of the day and would love for you all to respond in the comments below! I think it will be extremely fun 🙂
Today’s question of the day (QOTD):
Is it selfish to acquire new friends who can relate to your current place in life or is it better to adopt rap artist Drake’s mantra “No New Friends” and maintain your old friendships throughout life?
Can’t wait to read your responses!
mmm. I would say there is nothing wrong with new friends. As I get older I find that it is harder to get new friends so I am happy to have them.
I agree. Nothing wrong with new friends. Why do you think its harder to get new friends as you get older?
Why, oh why did you ask this question? I didn’t set out to write a novel today! I’ll try to keep it short:
First, let me say that I was bumping that song in my car for weeks, chanting along with Drake’s mantra. I must say, to a certain extent, I agree with it. Where ARE your real friends at?
But at the same time, I can’t ignore the fact that in recent years, I have acquired two (count them: one, two) friendships that have been placed among the most cherished relationships I possess. With that being said, I am allllll for forming new relationships with people that are in your current stage of life. This can become increasingly difficult as we get older but I view it as worth while. I believe life would be very lonely if it consisted of only the friendships we carried from childhood. People grow up and more importantly, they grow apart. What we had twenty years ago may not be enough to base a close friendship on today. We may have acquired different sets of morals and values, different lifestyles, etc. which is fine in some cases, but more often than not, these differences are a source of contention or friction and make maintaining a relationship difficult. However, if we matured in the same areas, maintained or adopted other things in common, or entered the same or similar stages in life around the same time we may still find ways to enrich each other’s lives and find maintaining a close relationship not just a responsibility but a privilege as well.
Great response Kami! I totally agree with you that it is sometimes very important to identify when it’s time to let a relationship go. If you hold on to a relationship that is dead it can just become toxic.
I think it’s all about finding a balance between old and new friends. As much as I’d like to say that I have a TON of old friends who I’ve known for years, I don’t have that many left, and the ones I DO have, I cherish and seek out and spend time with as much as I can. I try to do the same thing with new friends and people who I can imagine becoming something like these old friends to me. 🙂
I agree balance is key. I love making new friends but I love the relationship I have with my old friends as well. I don’t ever think I could adopt Drake’s mantra.
I say finding quality friends is a task in it’s self. Old or new, you find quality friends that are worth keeping then keep them 🙂 Love the question!
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You are right about that! It’s so hard to trust people these days. That’s why I cherish my friendships. Thanks for sharing.
I believe that people come into our lives when we need them. Some are forever friends, some are our crisis friends, some for a season and all for a reason. Does not make any of them less important.
Agreed! I believe all relationships have the ability to help us grow either by learning from the negative experiences and moving forward or by being genuinely enriching to our lives. Thanks for joining in on the discussion. Hope to see you next Tuesday 🙂