The holiday season is a fun time for serious relationships.It’s a time when couples get to start making their own little traditions . It’s also a great time for getting to know your partner’s family. Meeting the family for the first time can be very overwhelming at first because we want to make a good first impression. Your personality as well as your appearance are the first thing people usually evaluate upon meeting.
I remember the first time I met my husband’s aunt at a church function. She talked to me for several minutes as we made refreshments for the children at the event. Before leaving she said, “I think my nephew found a winner. You are beautiful and smart. You would be a great fit for our family.” It was very sweet for her to say to me but honestly it kind of freaked me out a bit because my hubby and I had only been dating for 2 months at that point. It turned out she was right. I later found out that this particular aunt has a knack for picking out future family members.
If you will be meeting the family for the first time this holiday season, I have a few tips for you!
- Be yourself! Be true to who you are. Do not try to change your personality to fit in with the family’s expectations.
- Be polite. No one likes dealing with rude or extremely negative people.
- Know that the family, especially the parents, are going to interrogate you. It’s like their job to try to figure out your intentions for their family member. Don’t let it overwhelm you. Just answer the questions truthfully and keep it moving.
- Get to know the family. Find out their interests, what they do for a living, etc. It’s a great icebreaker plus its good to know what kind of people they are if you plan to one day be a part of the family.
- A little PDA is ok but keep it rated G. No one wants to see the director’s cut version of you and your partner’s affection all night. Save that for the ride home.
Tips for dressing for meeting the family or the parents for the first time.
1. Dress appropriately!
- Nix the booty shorts.
- Cover the cleavage.
- Do not dress overly sexy.
2. Maintain your own fashion sense. It’s ok to display your creativity but do it tastefully.
3. I only have one tip for the men… wear a belt! No one wants to see your underwear at the dinner table. Also some people associate sagging pants with a hoodlum lifestyle. Don’t give off that vibe because you forgot to wear a belt.
Here is some outfit inspiration for the ladies if you are meeting the parents or the family this Thanksgiving.
- Meet The Parents: Stevens Style (scottawa.com)
- Meeting your sweetheart’s parents? Why flowers are always a good present to bring along (proflowers.com)
- What To Wear: Meeting The Parents (thehaberdash.com)